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Words of Encouragement

I was intending to write this week’s column on some substantial aspects of the composer’s place in our society (or rather the invisibility of our profession, if one is to gauge things from the latest NEA statistics), but I’m sure that topic will keep for a later time. Instead, I wanted to reflect on two seemingly unrelated events from the past week—a fire and a conversation—that have demonstrated to me the power of support and encouragement from those around you.

Before I crawled into my dorm bunk last Friday evening, I texted back and forth with my wife for about 30 minutes—we were catching up on what I had been doing here at Interlochen Summer Arts Camp and what she was doing back in western New York state. A few hours later, I woke up to my alarms telling me that I needed to get up early so I could get a head start on some overdue projects. As is my nature, I lazily read through new e-mails and Facebook posts from the night before when I saw that my wife had posted the following image:

Burning house from backyard

Burning house from backyard
Photo by Lori Deemer

Fast-forward through a couple hours of panic and frayed emotions and life began to calm down again. It turned out that the house next door to my house (which had not had any inhabitants for some time) went up in a huge fire the previous evening; our community’s volunteer fire department was quick to act and saved both our house and the opposite neighbor’s house from destruction. Even though our house was spared major damage, both Lori and I were overcome by the offers of assistance, both physical and mental. We’ve seen major disasters and the relief efforts that follow occur on a yearly basis in this country alone, and it was more than a little surreal to be on the receiving end of such gestures. This support from our local and extended communities meant as much as anything to the both of us and it didn’t take long to realize how essential that mental encouragement is when we are in need.

Several days later, I was bringing one of my private composition lessons to a close when I asked the student, a young woman from Tennessee, what got her interested in composition and what kept her interested in pursuing it. She was a pianist and had never been exposed to contemporary concert music or living composers (male or female), but she was lucky enough to have a teacher who had recognized her creativity and encouraged her to start composing. As we talked, it became clear that it was this teacher’s thoughtful support of her student that acted as tinder, spark, and accelerant for the novice creator.

Whether we are at the beginning of a journey (adventure/career/etc.), experiencing setbacks, losing our way, or making the painful realization that the journey needs to be cut short and a new direction is necessary, one through-line is the importance of support and encouragement from colleagues, friends, family and associates. It’s relatively easy to see this at play in many areas of our community, with composers and performers continually intersecting and collaborating through myriad local and regional projects, but it’s also very easy to find examples of musical and careerist myopia that can numb one to the need for giving honest support and encouragement throughout our cultural and educational systems. If my previous week’s adventures and discussions can act as a reminder, then so much the better.

Scratch That: The Agony and the Ecstasy

Five Things New Music Advocates Can Learn From The Super Bowl
I know, I know. You’re probably right to be skeptical. Our scrappy, small-budget ensembles and presenters don’t have much in common with the billionaire behemoth that is the NFL. Our concerts aren’t beamed out to millions of televisions every week. Contemporary music doesn’t have a nationwide Pee-wee program or online fantasy league. Even if we pooled all our money, we couldn’t hire PSY to dance with a bunch of pistachios.


The NFL is a problematic institution. The teams drain tax money from cities and if Jay Cutler’s facial expressions are any indication, brain injury is a serious issue.
But still: the Super Bowl is one of planet Earth’s most massively successful entertainment events, each and every year. We could probably learn a thing or two.

1. Hype is everything. The Super Bowl is preceded by two weeks of constant discussion, trash talk, and speculation. The NFL and the television networks create narratives (the battle of the Harbaugh brothers! Ray Lewis’s emotional last game!) and infuse the Super Bowl with enormous drama. They make it clear how much is at stake. This helps give the game more technical and emotional meaning for fans, and by kickoff time, we’re fully invested.

Takeaways: Don’t be afraid to talk yourself up. Tell stories about what concerts, collaborations, and recordings mean for you. Give fans and listeners multiple “hooks” and entry points to help them engage. Help build a thriving music media.


2. Fans really care about the human personalities on the team. Over the course of the season, fans master the players’ favorite dance moves, learn the meaning of their tattoos, and figure out who prays and who doesn’t. Big personalities fascinate us and make the game interesting. Fans want to hear the primal scream of Ray Lewis, to see the flustered paper throwing of Jim Harbaugh.

Jim Harbaugh Freakout

Takeaways: Go ahead and wear that funky accessory onstage. Don’t try to smooth over your eccentricities online. Embrace what makes you, and your music, special and noteworthy.

3. Watching is social. Thousands of people—many of whom don’t normally care about football—excitedly assembled nachos and trudged over to friends’ houses on a cold Sunday night. The Super Bowl brings people together to share an experience. That’s something that doesn’t happen often enough in our lonely society; as we know, it’s also one of the greatest things about live music.

Takeaways: Create concert and listening experiences that let humans connect with other humans. And don’t underestimate the power of great snacks.


4. The game experience is deepened by a sense of history. Football announcers are constantly pointing out historical signposts that help give meaning to key moments in the game. Our work is steeped in history, too. But do we really use history to our advantage? Do we talk about the Chicago musician who performed this piece first? Or get the composer to tell personal, vivid stories about where they were when they composed the piece?

Takeaways: Let’s find new, more exciting ways to talk about the rich personal history of our art form.


5. The flip side of victory is loss—and loss matters, too. Ever since I was a twelve-year-old girl rooting for the Patriots, I’ve empathized with the losing team. Sunday night, as I watched the sad 49ers trudge off the field, I sensed their acute vulnerability. They had given everything they had, in front of an audience of millions, and they had failed. There’s something about loss and failure that humanizes the athletes and makes us pull harder for their future success.

Takeaways: Don’t be afraid to show vulnerability or to fail in public. Do like Jennifer Jolley and Megan Ihnen—fail in public. Your fans, friends, and colleagues will understand your commitments and respect you all the more for it. P.S.: A grumbled congrats to Megan—and 2/3rds of the NMBx editorial staff, now that I think about it—on that Ravens victory!